Monday, February 13, 2012

Dis agreeable

So there's a thing I do. When I'm with people (people who haven't known me for 10+ years, or slept over my house, or get to be my boyfriend) I occasionally just agree to agree. I agree because I'm not sure what you're talking about, or because I don't feel like pursuing a subject, or because I'm just an agreeable girl. I feel like it's something most people do occasionally.

But.

Over the weekend I was in a position to be with people I know, and like very much, but who were discussing someone else I know a little too negatively for my tastes. I was taken off guard because, in general, I run with a pretty non-judgmental crowd. And we all judge or say negative things occasionally, but still. I considered smiling, just to be polite, but I thought that might just make them think I was agreeing - which I wasn't. So I got up and walked away.
It may not seem like much, but one of my long-term goals is to be better with expressing myself when I disagree. It may not sound like this was a step in the right direction, but it was better than smiling and nodding. Maybe next time I'll experiment with wide/blinky uncomprehending eyes...


EDITED TO ADD: This is really not meant to imply that I've never said anything bad about anyone. I sure have. But I try not to.  And now I will just try harder.

2 comments:

The Perfect Space said...

I'm really proud of you for making a statement there. I do think the blinky, uncomprehending eyes could be funny...

die Frau said...

Don't berate yourself for not doing more. Often getting up and walking away is a statement in and of itself. It's not always easy to say, "Hey, can we try NOT bashing X? Let's talk about Linsday Lohan (or another Celebrity Hot Mess)--much easier target!" Good on your head, as T would say.