I've become mildly obsessive about the idea of just "letting it go". You know, someone stands you up - just let it go. Someone says something hurtful - let it go. You didn't get the promotion you wanted? Let. It. Go.
My problem is that I have no idea HOW to let things go. Generally, I dwell over something, become (mostly inwardly) upset about it, but then with time those feelings chill out and I don't think about it much any more. But letting something go in the moment? Forget about it.
Currently, my method is the tried and true "fake it 'til you make it". If I say that something has rolled off my back, that's almost as good, yes? I am currently faking it on the outside, while stewing quietly on the inside. Oh, acting - you always do right by me.
But. If anyone has any actual suggestions that don't require me to become completely different* than I am right now, please let me know.
*For instance: "Just learn to chill" isn't helpful advice because that's not me and it would mean a whole new thing for me to learn. What is this "chilling" you speak of?